I ask because these days, I see many couples divorcing each other, it could be many reasons, like losing interest in one another,money issues, affairs, etc.
Many of those families seem to have kids, and, divorce is generally hard on the kids.
Nobody said marriage was easy, though. Spending the rest of your life with your partner, and, staying with each other through times good and bad, you may end up hating each other. Many people take the easy way out and end the marriage by walking out, or, as I said, cheating on their spouse.
These days, I see couples living together without marriage and raising children just the same as a healthy married couple.
My mom, as I said in past threads, has quite a strict interpretation of Shi'a Islam, and she finds it in distaste that I date a person who is not Indian, Pakistani, or Middle Eastern and is not a Shi'ite. My sister is the same way. Me, I don't want a wife who is religious, because, it makes everything more stressful and depressing for me. I don't care what skin colour she is, what ethnicity she is, or anything else, As I said, I do care about her religious views.
Anyway, back on topic, these days, people don't seem to uphold their marriages, and, it makes me wonder if I can ever find a girl who is committed to spend the rest of my life and her life raising our children and finding whatever amorous feelings we share with one another.
Logically, if you're James Hunt and you sleep with 5,000 women, then all those children of those 5,000 women will have tough lives. I know for us men, womanising and objectifying women is common and we all want to be like Hugh Hefner or James Hunt, but, life will become more difficult for those women you slept with, and, a woman's feelings should be more important when having some form of relationship with them.
Also, Islam allows men to marry four wives, but, having one wife is difficult, and two, three or four wives multiply the difficulty. But, I sort of digress, again.
Logically, if you really care about life, you would stay with one woman (or man) because taking care of many children from many different mothers requires a lot of money, but, staying with one wife and raising those children sounds like the most logical decision you can make in life. Then again, love is not logical.
Many of those families seem to have kids, and, divorce is generally hard on the kids.
Nobody said marriage was easy, though. Spending the rest of your life with your partner, and, staying with each other through times good and bad, you may end up hating each other. Many people take the easy way out and end the marriage by walking out, or, as I said, cheating on their spouse.
These days, I see couples living together without marriage and raising children just the same as a healthy married couple.
My mom, as I said in past threads, has quite a strict interpretation of Shi'a Islam, and she finds it in distaste that I date a person who is not Indian, Pakistani, or Middle Eastern and is not a Shi'ite. My sister is the same way. Me, I don't want a wife who is religious, because, it makes everything more stressful and depressing for me. I don't care what skin colour she is, what ethnicity she is, or anything else, As I said, I do care about her religious views.
Anyway, back on topic, these days, people don't seem to uphold their marriages, and, it makes me wonder if I can ever find a girl who is committed to spend the rest of my life and her life raising our children and finding whatever amorous feelings we share with one another.
Logically, if you're James Hunt and you sleep with 5,000 women, then all those children of those 5,000 women will have tough lives. I know for us men, womanising and objectifying women is common and we all want to be like Hugh Hefner or James Hunt, but, life will become more difficult for those women you slept with, and, a woman's feelings should be more important when having some form of relationship with them.
Also, Islam allows men to marry four wives, but, having one wife is difficult, and two, three or four wives multiply the difficulty. But, I sort of digress, again.
Logically, if you really care about life, you would stay with one woman (or man) because taking care of many children from many different mothers requires a lot of money, but, staying with one wife and raising those children sounds like the most logical decision you can make in life. Then again, love is not logical.
